Selfish people might be embarrassed by you. While they're using their time and energy almost exclusively on themselves, they see you giving time to others, and your kindness puts them in a bad light.Maybe they'll think you're a phony, that you use your altruism to get others indebted to you so they'll then owe you a favor. Or perhaps they'll accuse you, directly or behind your back, of focusing on the needs of others so no one ever focuses on your foibles or your genuine wounds.All of these are false accusations; yours is a genuine compassion, because you truly have a tender heart. One criticism might be more substantial, though. People might notice when you let things get out of balance and spend so much time responding to others that you neglect your own needs.Perhaps it's true to some extent that you are more comfortable when the focus is on someone else's needs than when you and your needs are front and center, and this may be a criticism worth paying attention to.
Yeah....yeah. Sometimes hearing the negative can give us heartache but I have always ascertained that knowing both sides can only make your choices more correct. There isn't a statement in this that is false. Hearing it brings me peace and helps me to understand the people around me.
What am I on about today.
3 more sleeps and I am off to visit SLC and see my amazing family and do some work for my MOMMA. SLC is a coming home place for me as I lived in Utah when I went to school.
What did I learn there? That if I thought the fish bowl of our culture here in Calgary was bad, Utah was even worse.
I was lucky. I learned early on the difference in defined perfection and the perfection my Father in Heaven expects of me. I have learned, more lately, to define myself against what I know God expects of me. It is liberating.
I am grateful to kind friends who can say what they mean an feel safe in doing so and that I have been granted a healed heart to be not-so easily offended. I am grateful for growth and wisdom and the examples of some incredible people who live their lives in a way that though they seem more than perfect they are the first to admit their challenges and help you with yours.
I am grateful for "Indian_Rubber" kids who are pinging back and realizing that happiness is found in each others faces and hearts and together we make a much stronger rope than separately as strings of emotions.
And most of all, I am grateful to God.
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